What To Do When ‘NO’ Is Not Enough

The moment it happens, we can freeze up, but that doesn’t make it permissible. When you’re not able to speak up or do something about sexual harassment, it doesn’t mean you’re allowing it. 

We can be at a loss when a situation makes us uncomfortable. And that’s normal. But you want to be prepared for the time it happens again. Sometimes consent is left unnoticed. The word ‘no’ comes in one ear and out the other. What do you do then?

Dealing With Sexual Harassment

Before An Act Happens

• Stay Aware. Pay attention to your surroundings and trust your instincts. Awareness is the first step to avoiding potentially dangerous situations.

• Trust Your Instincts. If something feels wrong or uncomfortable, communicate with a trusted friend or family. If no one you can come to is within sight, remove yourself from the area.

• Utilize Body Language. Stand tall, walk with purpose, maintain eye contact, and use assertive body language to convey confidence. Attackers are less likely to target those who appear strong and assertive. 

• Avoid Shady Places. Stay away from areas that are known to be dangerous, especially if you’re alone.

• Stick With Your Friends. Always try to have someone accompanying you to where you’re going and to drop you home. The more the merrier. Predators are less likely to prey on you if you’re with other people.

• Always Have a Ride Home. Make sure someone can drop you home, pick you up, or keep track of you going to wherever you’re going. Keep your live location open if you really need to go alone with people you can trust like your parents, siblings, or closest friends that could help you if a situation transpires.

During The Act

• Use Your Voice. If someone makes you uncomfortable or threatens you, clearly and firmly state your boundaries.

  • Don't hesitate to yell loudly. 

  • Use direct language such as "Stop" or "That's unacceptable."

• Target Vulnerabilities. In a self-defense situation, aim for vulnerable areas such as the eyes, throat, nose, groin, or knees. Strikes to these areas can incapacitate an attacker.

• Use Improvised Weapons. Everyday objects like keys, pens, or umbrellas can be used as improvised weapons for self-defense. Carry them in easily accessible places like your pockets or easy-to-access pouches in your bag.

After The Act

• Set Consequences. Communicate the consequences of continued harassment, such as involving legal authorities if necessary. It can be a scary step to take, but it’s best to ensure it doesn’t happen to others.

• Document Incidents. Keep a record of any inappropriate behavior, including dates, times, and details. This can be helpful if you need to report the behavior later.

• Enlist Support. Inform trusted colleagues or superiors about the situation. Having allies can strengthen your position and provide additional support.

In the face of such challenges, it's important to remember that you are not alone. Whether it's in the workplace, school, or any other setting, instances of sexual harassment can happen to anyone. It's not a reflection of who you are as a person. By taking preventive measures and finding the courage to speak up, we can work towards creating safer environments for everyone.

Remember, your voice matters, and together, we can strive for a future where sexual harassment is not tolerated.

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